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RE: singleness and hobbies, marriage and hobbies - 8/19/2008 11:17:47 PM
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John_O
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He's made some adorable things. The blanket Junior was snuggled up with was made by Skrey. 
Very cool. He's a talented man. I'm great at uncrocheting things. Just not so good at crocheting.
No disassemble! Bad John_O!
Great movie! The cool thing about crochet is that if you pick it just right you can "disassemble" the whole garment in no time.
I think that's why I prefer working with wood. It doesn't come apart as easy. Of course those wood trousers I made weren't really very comfortable. and we won't even discuss the splinter problem
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RE: singleness and hobbies, marriage and hobbies - 8/20/2008 7:11:55 AM
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John_O
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Don't mess with crocheters. We carry pointy objects.
Actually knitters are worse. Their pointy objects actually have points. I'll admit though that a crocheter's pointy object hurts more coming back out!!
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RE: singleness and hobbies, marriage and hobbies - 8/20/2008 7:56:41 AM
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I need to find some hobbies. I'm having a hard time with that.
If there were a significant other in my life, then I would understand having to cut back some of my hobby time (if I ever find one!). I would want for them to share it, or at least be supportive. But I definitely don't want him all up in my business 24/7, nor do I want to be in his business 24/7. Individual time is good and needed, for me at least. But I do agree that there's definitely a balance to be found.
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RE: singleness and hobbies, marriage and hobbies - 8/20/2008 4:11:42 PM
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My Hubby and I both had several hobbys when we married. Some of which we enjoyed together. After the kids came along, all of my hobbies (other than reading) went by the wayside, except the ones we did together. I was pretty busy with the twins so I did not really mind. My Hubby continued with his since they were important to him and I wanted him to have that time away or with his friends.
I think it is really important to discuss these things in advance. I have friends who really resent the fact that their husbands have hobbies of their own, or that their spouse gets to spend time away from the kids and they don't. If you discuss it in advance, it is less likely to become a source of contention.
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RE: singleness and hobbies, marriage and hobbies - 8/20/2008 4:36:54 PM
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Even though I am not married nor do I have children my family, my girls, have always taken a higher priority then any hobby I use to have........not because I sacrificed for them but because I find spending time with them, doing things with them and being a part of the girls life brings me so much more satisfaction then any of the hobbies which use to be important to me.
I enjoy painting and still do but will chose taking the girls to a festival over painting any day.
As I find I have a little more free time, with not having to care for my father and the girls doing "family" things, I occasionally pick up a paintbrush or enjoy another hobby.. I still enjoy them but find I use them more as something fun to do then because I am real passionate about them.
When the girls move to another town and I see them only once in a while I will probably take up some of my old hobbies or find news ones BUT when I marry I am sure my husband and children will be my most enjoyable hobby........
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RE: singleness and hobbies, marriage and hobbies - 8/20/2008 6:54:01 PM
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skreyola
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Don't mess with crocheters. We carry pointy objects.
Actually knitters are worse. Their pointy objects actually have points. I'll admit though that a crocheter's pointy object hurts more coming back out!!
Depends on the hook size. The tiny ones come with covers so you don't poke yourself with them. And there is that removal thing.
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RE: singleness and hobbies, marriage and hobbies - 8/21/2008 8:31:42 PM
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So, when looking for someone, look for someone who you have enough similar interests with so you can do things together, enough differences so to spice up your life
Well said prairiehiker.
It is important that your mate understand that you are an individual, complete in yourself, getting married does not mean giving up your hobbies/pastimes. After all these very interests are the ones that make you the individual that your spouse was attracted to in the first place. At the same time it is important that there are some pastimes/interests that you share with your spouse - these will be occasions when you spend time together. These occasions of sharing a pastime help you to build and strengthen the bond between the two of you. These moments also help to draw you close together.
Admittedly, these moments of sharing must be pastimes worthy of being shared. Not all hobbies are sharing activities, e.g. reading - I think is an activity for one person, unless you are going to read the same book and then discuss it afterwards (shrug). Prairie's hiking is a good example of an activity that can be shared.
There are some spouses who would share an activity with a spouse, even though it's not something that they like personally. In such a case they are making the effort to spend time with their spouse and that is commendable (I'm not suggesting that everyone should do that though). What may work for one person may not work for another.
All in all prairie did sum it up quite nicely, so I will quote her again to close my $5.00 spiel.
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So, when looking for someone, look for someone who you have enough similar interests with so you can do things together, enough differences so to spice up your life
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RE: singleness and hobbies, marriage and hobbies - 8/22/2008 5:10:27 PM
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n my experience I have found there are 4 types of wives.
I really like this post. I think it is important to be supportive in whatever your spouse thinks is important, even if you aren't keen on getting involved. I love the idea of spouses doing something they enjoy together, but it won't be this way for everything. What is most important is to recognize that your spouse has talent, expertise, and enthusiasm for something, and to respect that. To whine and gripe about it shows a lack of respect for the person he or she is, and insecurity on your part. I'm still looking for someone who will dress up in medieval garb and sing songs in Middle High German with me. It's very boring to go alone.
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RE: singleness and hobbies, marriage and hobbies - 8/22/2008 5:51:32 PM
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skreyola
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I'm still looking for someone who will dress up in medieval garb and sing songs in Middle High German with me. It's very boring to go alone.
This sounds like fun. If my GF/wife were interested in this, I'd at least try it. :) Of course, my voice isn't all that and a bag of chips, but I'm good with languages.
I agree with all you said.
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RE: singleness and hobbies, marriage and hobbies - 8/23/2008 5:11:31 PM
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Don't mess with crocheters. We carry pointy objects.
Actually knitters are worse. Their pointy objects actually have points. I'll admit though that a crocheter's pointy object hurts more coming back out!!
Depends on the hook size. The tiny ones come with covers so you don't poke yourself with them. And there is that removal thing.
LOL What about the Q size hook?? Yikes! I've got some knitting needles too...but they don't have covers on them...hehehe...
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RE: singleness and hobbies, marriage and hobbies - 8/23/2008 11:08:17 PM
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skreyola
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Don't mess with crocheters. We carry pointy objects.
Actually knitters are worse. Their pointy objects actually have points. I'll admit though that a crocheter's pointy object hurts more coming back out!!
Depends on the hook size. The tiny ones come with covers so you don't poke yourself with them. And there is that removal thing.
LOL What about the Q size hook?? Yikes! I've got some knitting needles too...but they don't have covers on them...hehehe...
The tiny ones I have are REAL olde.
12, 13, 00... I think they used different (reversed like wire gauges) numbers for the sizes then.
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RE: singleness and hobbies, marriage and hobbies - 9/18/2008 6:30:28 AM
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I do have a lot of hobbies that I enjoy and I think it would be tough to balance those with other commitments when I first get married. But I think after awhile I'll find time to still be able to enjoy the things I do without being neglectful of my other responsibilities.
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RE: singleness and hobbies, marriage and hobbies - 10/16/2008 11:22:34 PM
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This is by far equally one of the best posts (thanks, Pete!) I've seen in the community. Can I get some stars glued on it somehow? I've got the Elmer's and the glitter, but that could get messy.
Quiet times are important, hobbies are important, and sharing is important too. So would be learning how to share time in a hobby with a spouse when both of you know you really don't care for that one much at all.
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It all depends on the individual and it's something someone should give a serious consideration if he/she is thinking of spending the rest of their life with someone.
If your hobby is just something you do until Mr or Ms. Right comes along, then, it's probably not a big deal if your partner doesn't share the same interest. But if it's an integral part of your identity and lifestyle, and it's a true passion, instead of just a hobby, then, I'd have to say that you have to see if you can spend the rest of your life with someone who doesn't have any interest in it.
I have a lot of hobbies and interest which I don't necessarily need to share with a partner. I run and bike and enjoy little cafes, and books. Those, I don't really need to share with a partner as I can do them alone, and prefer to do them alone. But if the man doesn't share my passion for the outdoors, and specifically moutain hiking, then, we won't spend our vacations together. IT would cause an awful lot of frustration on my part because I'd love to share so much of my experiences and adventure with someone special, and I can't imagine living my life with someone who could care less about these things.
For example, during my last vacation, a friend decided to tag along last minute (seriously, she called me 1 hour before we left). She is not outdoorsy, never camped, never hiked, not into long drives and she had two kids. I had no choice but to take them as they were on the way to my place. By the third day, I was so frustrated that I flipped out on her. My dream vacation was being ruined by 3 people who I had to spend most of my time accomodating. I took the kids hiking, and within 1/4 a km, she was complaining that she couldn't walk and she'd like to sit down. That was frustrating because her kids definitely wanted to come along. I ended up doing things with her kids, while she sat around or went shopping. We had absolutely nothing in common. When my daughter and I did a few difficult hikes, we were so excited to share them with her, but she didn't even care to show any interest. She had a miserable time in BC...all because she's a city person, and I'm an outdoorsy person.
Now, that was only 5 days with her (we dropped her off somewhere to meet her other friends after the 5th day). Can I imagine 5 years, or a lifetime with a person whom I can't share my passion with. Not a chance. We related quite well during our times together, but it took an awful lot of effort in my part, and probably hers too.
I learned from that experience that even though relationships should take a top priority in our lives, we should be very discerning about who we spend our special times with. We were on the same vacation, and I had the most amazing time, while she had never been miserable in her life. From now on, we'd probably spend a few hours here and there, but not long vacations anymore.
So, when looking for someone, look for someone who you have enough similar interests with so you can do things together, enough differences so to spice up your life, and look for someone who has a great attitude about life overall. Someone who can roll with the punches when life gets tough and is willing to share the adventure with you.
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