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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/8/2008 11:32:54 AM
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mutinywxgirl
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My birthdays have surprised me as far as my reaction to them has been concerned...
I expected 25 to be traumatic, and was okay, but 26 threw me for a loop. I also expected 30 to be even more traumatic, but I braced myself for it and triumphed (of course, it helped when I went to the salon on my bday and the lady didn't believe that I was 30 years old!).
I think 26 was the hardest because I expected myself to be at a certain place in life-- marriage, kids, career, etc... my parents married at 18 and many of my friends got married young. I thought that was just the norm. I had to realize that God had put me on a different schedule in every area in my life. Which has worked out fine for me....I'm no longer panicked over where I'm supposed to be and instead thankful for where I currently am.
Lisa warned me about the euphoria relating to this and she was soooo right!!! There is nothing better than telling someone you're in your 30's and for them to, "No way!!!!"  I love it!!!
Although it still hasn't hit me I'm 30 so give me a few months and I'll have a better opinion for you. 
Oh, goodie, do I get to say "I told you so" now???????
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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/8/2008 11:35:51 AM
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My birthdays have surprised me as far as my reaction to them has been concerned...
I expected 25 to be traumatic, and was okay, but 26 threw me for a loop. I also expected 30 to be even more traumatic, but I braced myself for it and triumphed (of course, it helped when I went to the salon on my bday and the lady didn't believe that I was 30 years old!).
I think 26 was the hardest because I expected myself to be at a certain place in life-- marriage, kids, career, etc... my parents married at 18 and many of my friends got married young. I thought that was just the norm. I had to realize that God had put me on a different schedule in every area in my life. Which has worked out fine for me....I'm no longer panicked over where I'm supposed to be and instead thankful for where I currently am.
Lisa warned me about the euphoria relating to this and she was soooo right!!! There is nothing better than telling someone you're in your 30's and for them to, "No way!!!!" I love it!!!
Although it still hasn't hit me I'm 30 so give me a few months and I'll have a better opinion for you.
Oh, goodie, do I get to say "I told you so" now???????
Shush you.
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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/8/2008 3:12:57 PM
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Turning 30 was hard. I actually planned a surgery for that day so it would go by without my thinking about it. That did not work because my friends planned a surprise party for the day before, and I truly was surprised!
My thirties were my best years yet. I had a wonderful husband that I loved, three beautiful children, my husband had a great job and was managing 4 banks. We loved where we lived in the Sierras. We had a great church and quality of life big time.
The 40's not so good so far. I did not have a hard time turning 40 that I can remember. Our lives had already started to fall apart so turning 40 was nothing.
I turn 43 this month. I don't have any intense feelings about it one way or another, but I really do feel that the best is yet to come. I am just patiently waiting for whatever it is God has for me now.
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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/8/2008 7:52:32 PM
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I think the _0 birthday's are the tough ones for me....well, except for when I turned 20...that was great! And age didnt' really bother me at all until 30 started to approach. I got a bit sad about it because I still had not been married and still no children. That was really tough for me. But then I turned 30 and lived to tell about it and realized it wasn't so bad. In fact, I loved my 30's. Now I'm trying to come to grips with being in my 40's...because here I am again....not married and not children. sigh But, I'm hoping to be pleasantly surprised in my 40's like I was in my 30's.
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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/8/2008 8:56:27 PM
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But, I also think that the presence of the Lord in your life and His peace can help you to look young as well.
This is most definitely true. You can watch the news and see that those who back anti-biblical ideas such as abortion and homosexuality always look older (and uglier) than those who back Godly principles.
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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/8/2008 9:50:56 PM
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woo hoo, kuku!!!!!!! Enjoy!!!!!!! 
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The day true love died. The day true love died.
Lisa is happy THE ROWDIES ARE BACK!
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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/8/2008 9:57:19 PM
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a couple of years ago, I was asked out by a 21 year old guy from the office because he thought I was around his age. Of course I didn't go and told him I was old enough to be his mother (I would have been if I had gotten pregnant at 15). That was an ego booster.
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They will soar on wings like eagles;
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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/8/2008 10:33:59 PM
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Good attitude! I couldn't WAIT to turn 30, and I have a feeling I'm going to be like that with 50 too. 
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When blood and water hit the ground.
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We were free and made alive.
The day true love died. The day true love died.
Lisa is happy THE ROWDIES ARE BACK!
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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/8/2008 10:40:34 PM
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But, I also think that the presence of the Lord in your life and His peace can help you to look young as well.
This is most definitely true. You can watch the news and see that those who back anti-biblical ideas such as abortion and homosexuality always look older (and uglier) than those who back Godly principles.
While I have definitely seen that those who don't live according to biblical principles often look older over time, I was thinking about this a little differently. I was thinking more about the peace that comes when we spend time with the Lord in prayer, when we allow Him to comfort us, when we let go of grudges and unforgiveness, when we choose to act lovingly even when we are not loved, when we choose to be thankful even in the midst of trying circumstances. I'm not saying that this is the case for everyone, because you can follow the Lord and have many hardships that might age you prematurely - but the peace of the Lord I think can often make one youthful.
The reason why I mention this is because I know some people who back Godly principles, but who get so angry about direction of our society, and issues like abortion, homosexuality, racism, sexism, etc. - that it colors everything in their life - and they don't look younger, but walk around looking (and being) angry most of the time. I've come to think that this is a trick of the enemy - that he takes righteous indignation of sin - a violation of God's word - and uses it to tempt us to hate people instead of us remembering that we wrestle not against flesh and blood but principalities and powers. I think when that happens it is kind of like a double whammy. The first is that we are affected mentally and physically. But the other part is that our love for the others can often be hindered - and as soon as that happens, spoils our witness for Christ - which I believe is the main goal. In my lifetime, I've come to know people who are homosexual, committed crimes, been racist or sexist (sin: respector of persons), even someone who was considering getting involved with soft pornography (the person didn't go through with it - praise God!). I've found that people are willing to engage and listen to the truth if they feel on some gut level that you respect and love them as human beings who were made in the image of God. They might not like what you have to say, but will often receive and think about it if they know that you love them AND they see that you are serious about following Christ. I think a lot about Christ - who loved the woman at the well, who had compassion on "notorious woman" who poured alabaster on his feet and washed it with her hair. Who took the time to speak to Nicodemus and share the gospel with him.
I do feel there is something to the Lord renewing our strength, giving back the years that the locusts have eaten, and also in us generally walking in love in our dealings with one another. I'm certainly not perfect in any of these areas and need to learn a lot more about walking in love (I was just convicted of some things this weekend) - but I'm coming to appreciate the love of God more and more each day. There is something about love that is life-giving - almost youthful - for the giver and the receiver.
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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/8/2008 10:54:18 PM
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You know what, other than turning 26, I never had any hang up about turning a certain age. 30s were my most fun, fulfilling years so far. I don't know what happened, but as my birthday looms around the corner, I am finding that I'm feeling sad, or maybe "grieving" is the word for it. I don't want to be around people. I'm more reflective. Mid life crisis? I guess everyone goes through that when you're questioning what your life has been about and what direction you want to go from here. Maybe to a degree, I'm grieving the loss of the ideal life that I've had in my head. Or I dread what's coming around the bend...like my daughter is getting older, and I'm seeing myself being truly alone again.
On the other hand, I'm so looking forward to a lot of things....like travelling with other adults, or joining World Vision, or doing all the adventures that I want to do. I just got to go through that one day that officially takes me to my 40th year. Ugh. Just seeing it makes me cringe, lol.
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but those who hope in the LORD
will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint....Isaiah 40: 31
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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/8/2008 11:05:26 PM
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Excellent post 42 rgod! Very good points
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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/8/2008 11:10:22 PM
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Rgod, have you been listening to the God Journey, lol.
That's exactly what being a Christian means to me. Loving people. Engaging people in meaningful conversations. It's about relationships and a lot less about judgement. As you get old, you learn that this is what Jesus showed us how to do life.
And keep listening to those two guys. They rock!
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but those who hope in the LORD
will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint....Isaiah 40: 31
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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/8/2008 11:42:37 PM
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When blood and water hit the ground.
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We were free and made alive.
The day true love died. The day true love died.
Lisa is happy THE ROWDIES ARE BACK!
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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/8/2008 11:44:58 PM
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more 2 minute makeup sessions . Then there is hair. Ay yi yi! Growing where you don't want it to ... not growing where you want it to. But that is a whole other story. But I love the internal changes that happen within people as they age, especially when they walk with the Lord!
I agree with you. People's true beauty really shines through more as people become mature and become more aware of the spiritual reality. My best friends is sooo incredibly beautiful. Not a line on her face and she's in her 50s. SHe's so completely at peace. SHe doesn't make a lot of money, nor does she own a lot of possessions. She's single, but is taking care of her ex husband who has health issues(that's how loving she is). Can you imagine doing that?
One thing you'll notice when you meet her is the warmth and the peace that's in her. Her faith is so strong. And there's no bitterness or anger in her. She is a true picture of beauty and love, and without God in her heart, I don't know if she would be like that.
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but those who hope in the LORD
will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint....Isaiah 40: 31
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Sounds like some of you had a hard time with that one! Scary!! Seriously, I haven't allowed myself to worry to much, what's the sense in it? Worrying will only make me age faster! 
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