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RE: silly but serious question for married women - 9/17/2008 3:16:54 PM
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Mrs.Wifey
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Lol, you "closed bathroom door" people always make me laugh. There was another thread about it in marriage and it made me wonder if our bathroom doors even lock. I had no clue(they do, by the way) so I asked Micah and he didn't know either.
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RE: silly but serious question for married women - 9/17/2008 3:28:07 PM
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We only close the door for "Number 2," otherwise it's open. That's the only thing we withhold from each other... and that's just fine with me!!
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RE: silly but serious question for married women - 9/17/2008 5:51:30 PM
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I am VERY private about my period. My husband is sort of grossed out by periods so out of respect for him I do not leave things out in the open. My supplies are kept in a cupboard and I even keep a trash can in there to dispose of things. I rarely complain about cramps to him.
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RE: silly but serious question for married women - 9/17/2008 5:57:19 PM
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you know... when we were first married, my husband thought that women who complained of cramps were just being dramatic. His mom and sister never complained of any, because they never had any, and therefore he thought no one really had any. Then he married me. I have horrendous cramps, get moody, irritable, and actually vomit sometimes from the changing hormones as well. At first he said something like "if you can be 'nice' and 'normal' when you are out with others, I don't understand why you can't be like that at home" He quickly changed his mind when he began to see just what all happened with me with each period. He understood that it was taking all I had within me to make it through being out with other people, and being nice and normal... and when I was home I wanted to curl up in a ball and cry if that's what I felt like. Now he just thinks that's normal. =)
oh, and as to the open or closed bathroom doors....... we have separate bathrooms. His is in the hallway, and so he normally closes for everything. Mine is in a corner of the bedroom, with my closet opposite it, so he doesn't normally go over there, and I don't always close the door. He's seen me at my worst... with horrible vomitting and diarrhea, so if he could withstand that, he can handle just about anything. =)
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RE: silly but serious question for married women - 9/18/2008 10:21:55 AM
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No, no embarassment here on the feminine products. It's just a natural thing, he knew I'd have them in the house.
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We only close the door for "Number 2," otherwise it's open. That's the only thing we withhold from each other... and that's just fine with me!!
Same here. Although now that we have kiddos and they're getting out of their baby stages, we pretty much always close the door.
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RE: silly but serious question for married women - 9/19/2008 2:45:25 AM
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Erin- you aren't the only ones with code words. I either tell DH that things are "messy" or say "day 1" (from our charting days).
We're generally bathroom door open people- ours don't close tightly and the cats like to walk in anyways. For #2, Dh will usually push the door closed, and he'll walk out of the bathroom when I'm dealing with TOM stuff. I haven't bought any TOM things in years (I use a Diva cup and cloth pads), so I can't say if he'd mind buying things- I think he'd be more worried about getting exactly what I needed from the myriad of choices.
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RE: silly but serious question for married women - 9/19/2008 7:42:35 AM
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Code words? I don't know that I ever use the correct terms with my Sweetie. He gets a twinkle in his eye and I'll tell him to hold that thought and come back to me in a week...
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RE: silly but serious question for married women - 9/19/2008 7:44:06 AM
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We used to call it 'no baby' time because we knew I wasn't pregnant if TOM came
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RE: silly but serious question for married women - 9/19/2008 7:58:31 AM
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I couldn't bear to call it that. We decided not to think of it that way so that I wasn't so sad every month.
He has his own rather coarse nickname for 'that week' that always makes me laugh but I don't think I can share it here.
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RE: silly but serious question for married women - 9/19/2008 8:59:51 AM
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well, not being pregnant wasn't sad for us at the time so it wasn't a problem for us. I could see not using it if you want to be pregnant though
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RE: silly but serious question for married women - 9/19/2008 11:38:44 AM
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I have my own bathroom. LOL! But he comes in all the time. I have to say, hello, I am trying to relax and take care of business. LOL! Sometimes I don't care. I guess it is a mood thing.
When I was growing up, we locked doors, but when my nephew was little, and getting potty trained, he had to go when he had to go. So the doors were never locked. With only one bathroom then, that is the price you pay. So I was used to him running in and out while I was taking a shower. So I don't lock doors unless I don't want people to walk in. :)
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RE: silly but serious question for married women - 9/19/2008 1:14:01 PM
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If you buy feminine products at CostCo, that prevents the hubby having to make an emergency run... I am almost never out of tampons!!
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RE: silly but serious question for married women - 9/19/2008 2:52:56 PM
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HAHA! That is funny!
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RE: silly but serious question for married women - 9/19/2008 5:00:05 PM
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yeah, David has absolutely no qualms about buying the products for me... in fact, he's less embarrassed about things than I am. He just figures everybody does it, so what's the big deal. His big worry is getting the right things. He hates it when he has truly tried to get the right thing, but somehow it isn't right.
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RE: silly but serious question for married women - 9/20/2008 10:12:10 AM
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This leads to a funny story: About a month ago, he went to the drugstore to purchase lighter fluid and a pregnancy test but couldn't find either one. So, he asks for help and tells the clerk that he needs lighter fluid for the the grill and that he needs the pregnancy test because he is late. He has no shame and delights in embarassing other people. LOL that sounds like something my sweetie might do ... he is always funny like that
When I was young teen...the thought of buying my own pads was embarassing to me...but I grew out of that along time ago lol
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RE: silly but serious question for married women - 9/20/2008 10:14:59 AM
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When you got married, was it hard/weird/embarrassing for you to have your husband see your boxes of tampons or pads? Or to tell him you had cramps?
I never had brothers, and I'm pretty private about that part of my life, so I was just wondering..
It wasn't at all. I felt so close to my husband when we married, that it was natural for him to see that part of my life.
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RE: silly but serious question for married women - 9/20/2008 11:01:23 AM
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I'm not nearly as embarrassed about buying feminine products these days as I was when I was a teen... but I won't purposely walk around carrying it so that everyone can see, or anything like that. David has absolutely no thought to "I don't want the whole world to know" so he doesn't care. I will normally try to put it in the cart near the bottom, mixed with other things, so they are not so noticeable. For the cashiers? Well, I figure that they better get used to seeing them go through.
David did get comments once (actually more than once now that I think of it) about buying pregnancy tests. Never about him per se... just stuff like "I hope this turns out the way you want it to" or "best of luck with that" or whatever. He just usually says very little when the cashiers make such comments.
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RE: silly but serious question for married women - 9/20/2008 11:06:32 PM
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Do you mention things to your husband/boyfriend/fiancee about it? Like I usually feel horrid, so I can't just tell him "I feel bad" because then he'll ask whats wrong. I tried tell him I just felt icky, but I don't think he really understands that.
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