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RE: Please Help - Stuck in the middle. - 10/15/2008 12:25:01 PM
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crankius
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My BF was not involved in this and we have a very solid relationship. We both believe in God and actually just found a church that the two of us can attend together where we are going to talk to a pastor about some of these things that have happened as of late.
I pray you both seek wise, Godly counsel regarding your future together.
You are living with your bf now? You should move out.
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If my parents/ mom believed that my BF to be involved in this would mean that she is judging and therefor be not Christianlike.
We are not to judge the salvation of another person, but we are to examine their fruits and examine their walk. You bet--your parents should be carefully examining any young man who might be the future husband of their daughter.
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RE: Please Help - Stuck in the middle. - 10/15/2008 12:29:19 PM
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crankius
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That was over a year ago that this happened as well and the problem with my parents just started a couple months ago.
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They jsut started going to a new Church in July/August.
Do you think there is a link here? Have your parents become very serious about following God? Perhaps this new focus on God has altered their feelings about your situation with your bf.
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RE: Please Help - Stuck in the middle. - 10/15/2008 1:42:48 PM
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sweetheartprayer
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I really doubt it has changed them all that much. From knowing them an growing up with them as my parents.
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RE: Please Help - Stuck in the middle. - 10/15/2008 2:28:00 PM
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crankius
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Maybe you should just ask them.
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RE: Please Help - Stuck in the middle. - 10/15/2008 2:39:32 PM
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I have asked them before. Multiple times. But my mom always responds that if I am happy they she is happy and that is all that matters to her. I've asked my other family members about their thoughts and they all think my BF is a good guy. He has a great job in a corporate office, he sings in a band and plays softball with me.
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RE: Please Help - Stuck in the middle. - 10/15/2008 2:49:13 PM
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crankius
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ORIGINAL: sweetheartprayer
I have asked them before. Multiple times. But my mom always responds that if I am happy they she is happy and that is all that matters to her. I've asked my other family members about their thoughts and they all think my BF is a good guy. He has a great job in a corporate office, he sings in a band and plays softball with me.
Ok. Just making sure. Have you asked them in the last couple of months why their feelings seem to have changed?
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RE: Please Help - Stuck in the middle. - 10/15/2008 3:05:31 PM
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sweetheartprayer
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I haven't asked them that. See, back in July/August we had a similar thing happen ( a misunderstanding) and my parents were upset, then it seemed to all smooth out and everything was fine, then this happened (another misunderstanding) and they are mad again. Everyone is telling me to give it a few weeks and things will probably smooth out again but I don't want to keep making this a repeating problem. I want to talk to my mom and ask her what is going on but I don't know how to ask her without causing more issues. Another thing too is that I have been told by many people, family included that I have to live my life and make my decisions and best fit my life.
I think I already said this above but I will put it again. I printed the email that was sent to my BF from my mom and the one my BF sent back. I made copies and two of my co-workers (my friends) and I read the whole email again and the email my BF sent back was EXACTLY the same as the email sent to him. It just doesn't make sense to any of us what the issue is.
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RE: Please Help - Stuck in the middle. - 10/17/2008 2:32:54 PM
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Sweetheartprayer, Please don't take this the wrong way but If you have a problem with someone.. sometimes it is best to give some time to cool down but then you should go talk to them about it afterwards but if you just let things be because there fine, but you never really talked about the problem nothing got solved it just kept building up... until the next one... well I know you are at that point and your tired of that circle So take some time and pray about how to talk with your mom and parents and then go talk with them...and remeber not to get angery or mad just talk things out...and keep your cool...and if nothing gets solved then you leave them alone and let them solve their problem with God.
Listen to what God has to say He will never mislead you!
Its one thing to get advice but you can't solve problems if you don't talk with your mom to begin with although if you talk with her and they don't get solved thats when you go to another person... but who-ever you have a problem with you should go to them first.
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